There are amazing stories of marriage out there. I know we hear about different cases of things that can be scary but I promise you, there are good ones too.
In a world where the narrative is changing for the negative and the institution of marriage is taking a hit, I want to reassure you that you can still have your own beautiful story.
A lot of us go into marriage with unreal fantasies of flawlessness, expecting no fights, no arguments, no disappointments, no challenges. So when we get in and find these, we look at our marriages like they have not worked out.
I counsel on marriages and I can say that the journey to where we are today has had a lot of the things that I counsel on. I learnt on the job and the story that exists today is one of deliberate continuous learning.
We have had fights (we still do)
We have had family issues (we still do)
We have had inlaw issues (we still do)
We have had financial downtimes
We have waited
We have prayed
We have had tears
But I promise you, we have also had family care, we have also experienced inlaw support. We have had laughs, had financial highpoints, we have had answers.
Where we are today is an overall mix of both sides and the overall resultant is still an amazing one. It is still one to be grateful for.
We are not where we want to be yet but we are not where we started from, we have grown.
I know you read and hear a lot but let me tell you today that there are still beautiful stories out there and that is still a default for marriage. You can decide which you want yours to be. Will you have challenges? Of course but if you stay with your Lord and stay committed to your well defined journey, one day it will all make sense.
