Dear wife,
I know you never imagined you’d find yourself in this situation—but here you are.
Your marriage feels broken. The endless arguments have left you exhausted, so much so that you barely want to talk anymore. What started as a simple friendship with someone outside your marriage slowly became more—someone who filled the gap left by your husband, whether due to work, money, or neglect.
For the first time in a long time, you felt noticed. You felt desired. You felt important again. The attention was refreshing, and it reminded you of the woman you once were. And though it feels like no one could possibly understand—you are not alone.
But here’s the truth:
Even if it feels too late to save your marriage, you’ll never truly know unless you try. And while returning to a spouse who seems uninterested may not sound appealing compared to someone showering you with attention, deep down—you know this affair isn’t who you are.
This isn’t about the other man being married. This is about you. About the values you’ve built over the years. About the woman of honor you are, who once believed in love, loyalty, and self-respect.
Yes, letting go is painful. Yes, starting over in your marriage feels daunting. But it’s possible. With help, with patience, and with honesty—both with yourself and your spouse—you can begin again.
Right now, you may feel angry or frustrated at your husband. But healing begins with one step at a time. And if you still want your marriage, you owe it to yourself to try.
This is not who you are. You are more than this moment, more than this struggle. And even if you don’t believe it right now—you can rise above it.
I’m rooting for you.
