True, you are hurt—but remember, marriages face challenges every day, everywhere. Even I face challenges. In that sense, you are not strange, you are not lost, and you are certainly not alone.
Life brings its share of storms into our homes, but you must stand firm and fight them. You must refuse to let them take over your space, to steal your peace, or to redefine your love.
Sometimes, forgiveness is not about forgetting what happened or pretending it didn’t hurt. It’s about protecting your heart and your home from the pain that lingers when peace is denied. We forgive—not because we are weak—but because we deserve peace more than we deserve pain.
Your partner is human too, still learning, still trying to understand how to make things right. When you think about it, every heart truly seeks a home where peace lives and love grows.
I felt driven to write this today, though I do not fully understand why. But if it reaches you, and speaks to a language your heart understands, please listen. Forgive. Give peace a chance again.
Say this to your partner:
“Dear,
I am hurt, but I will give peace a chance. Let’s talk about our home and move away from this, because we deserve a happy home.”
Then begin—in the name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful—and let your home be healed.
Peace.
