Understand that many ladies promise things they don’t understand in the desperation to be married.
They’d promise you support and perseverance that will make you believe all is well but do not mistake that as a justification for you to go in without being able to meet up because when in marriage, you are unable to meet up, it’s the same women who’d be so quick to talk about how they are suffering or how you are not meeting up.
Know what you want and be clear about it. If she’s cool with it, let her stay. If she’s not cool with it, let her seek her own spouse ahead. There’s enough for everyone to be happy with. Don’t ever allow anyone to come at you with the “my parents said” narrative. Not only will it not match what you have planned and are comfortable with, it can be an indication of what sort of influence the parents have and will display as regards meddling in the marital affairs going forward.
Have your timeline sorted and be clear about it upfront.
