Getting married as a woman needs you to align your journey with that of the man you married. Many women make the mistake of thinking it means they should abandon themselves completely.
So, they give it all up, career, self care, self development, acquisitions etc, and it would feel like it’s worth it. However, men give up a lot but never really forget their own journeys.
As a man, one can give up all the earnings to wife and children but it happens as he wants it. All of that is being given up towards a dream he has about family. That’s just one example.
Eventually though, these wives get to a point where they realize just how much they have let go but it often feels like being too late.
For many, it’s when the children leave the home to start their own that it dawn’s that you hid behind the excuse of “doing it for the children”. It is expected to make sacrifices for the children but not so much you have nothing left of your original self and positive identity.
When you find some mothers fighting for relevance with the wives of their children, it is because this is where they poured everything.
Beyond being the wife of your spouse, mother of your children, who are you?
Career, education, income, properties, spirituality; these are also important.
The biggest irony is that this may even become the reason your spouse desires someone else.
Before you are a wife or mother, don’t forget, you are first a human being. Pay attention to that human being too.
What are you doing today to make yourself better?
Raise your children, be a good wife but someday, children will move away from home and spouse may even look to another. What would you have done for yourself that can sustain you?
The time is now!
