“What do you do to help me in this house? You are useless”
Unfortunately, many wives have heard this very statement or a variant of it.
As a husband, I know the pressure can pile sometimes and you are frustrated from not being able to get the financial support you need.
Indeed, a wife that can support you financially strengthens your marriage but where she is not able to, don’t forget who she is and what she brings.
Traditionally, she is saddled with sorting the home; a complex mix of birthing and primarily nurturing the children, while at the same time attending to meals and keeping the house in order. As an inclusive husband and father, I have done these at different times and I promise you, it’s not easy and it’s not “nothing”.
She is your wife and you are responsible for her welfare as you are of the home but even where a wife doesn’t have the capacity to support you financially, crushing her emotionally with such words weakens your bond and her ability to do better. Where it strengthens her, it does so negatively with a vengeful mindset you have forged her into.
Why is she even unable to support financially? Is it because you have shown her disloyalty through infidelity? Is it because you lack priority and are financially reckless? Is it because you have stopped her from working or negated her career? Is it because you have systematically depleted her resources?
Words That Break Wives: A Message to Husbands
That is not to say there aren’t stingy women or poorly oriented wives who have been raised to think a woman should not help a man but sometimes it begins with you.
