I often speak about how my wife respects me as a good woman should, but it’s important to acknowledge that this would not be the case if I hadn’t also done my part.
It’s easy to demand respect from your wife, but how much respect can she genuinely give if you don’t first respect yourself?
If you are a man who spends his time chasing other women, whether on social media or elsewhere, you lose the moral authority to come home and demand respect. When you consistently disrespect yourself—and by extension, your wife—you erode the very foundation you’re asking her to honor.
The same principle applies to how you treat her. Yes, you are called to lead, but leadership does not mean every disagreement should be met with harsh words, raised voices, or demeaning language. You cannot expect calmness and tenderness from your wife when you consistently offer anger and contempt.
Being a husband comes with serious responsibilities—financial, emotional, spiritual, physical, and more. If you neglect these duties or shift the burden entirely onto her, you slowly but surely diminish the respect you seek.
Yes, your wife should respect you. But true respect is not automatic; it is earned daily through your behavior, your leadership, and your commitment to being the man you are called to be.
