People will always try to excuse infidelity with different reasons.
They’ll say things like:
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“Don’t check your partner’s phone.”
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“Men are polygamous in nature.”
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“Marriage is about patience.”
But none of these statements change one simple truth — cheating is a choice.
When a spouse is unfaithful, it doesn’t just hurt feelings. It creates real, lasting damage that goes beyond the emotional. Infidelity exposes the other partner to potential harm — infections, emotional breakdowns, and in some cases, even physical danger.
More often than not, cheating tears families apart in ways that are hard to fix. It drains finances, steals attention, weakens emotional bonds, and replaces love and laughter with suspicion and silence. Over time, what was once a warm home turns cold. The laughter fades. The connection dies. And eventually, what remains is only the title of a marriage — without the heart of one.
This is usually the point where excuses start to surface. People will tell you to be quiet, to endure it, to “protect your home.” But ask those who make such excuses what their faith says about adultery, and you’ll realize — there are no justifications.
Infidelity, no matter how it’s explained, is still wrong. It’s not a mistake; it’s a betrayal.
If you suspect that something isn’t right, address it early. Silence doesn’t heal a broken marriage — communication and accountability do. The people telling you to ignore it are often those who have normalized the pain or are trapped in it themselves. They want you to accept what they’ve accepted so they don’t feel alone in their misery.
But your marriage is yours, and you have every right to demand honesty, faithfulness, and respect within it. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel that asking for commitment is too much — it’s exactly what your Creator commands.
If you truly love your spouse, love them enough to speak against what destroys the home. Love them enough to demand better — from them, and from yourself. Because real love doesn’t hide behind excuses; it fights for truth and peace.