Marriage is a beautiful thing—but let’s be honest, it’s not perfect. Many people think that a beautiful marriage means a flawless one. That’s not true. If you believe there will never be disagreements or hard times, you’re either dreaming or preparing to fake it.
This doesn’t mean you should be ready to fight all the time. But when challenges come, remember—you’re not alone.
Even as someone who gives relationship advice, I don’t have it easy all the time. My partner and I argue too. Sometimes it gets intense. That’s life.
The key is to accept that imperfections exist—but don’t get too comfortable with them. What does that mean? It means knowing that problems will come, but also being willing to work through them, over and over again.
Most couples go through tough seasons, especially in the first few years. You may face issues like tension with in-laws, money problems, cheating, anxiety before having kids, changes during pregnancy, and the pressures after childbirth. These struggles hit each couple differently, and at times it may feel like your marriage is falling apart—or that it was a mistake to begin with.
Some people may say, “We never went through that.” But deep down, most couples know the truth. Just like you’re working hard to protect your marriage, others are doing the same. You’re not alone.
Eventually, every marriage finds its balance. It might not always be the balance we hoped for, but many couples do make it through and come out stronger.
So, if today feels heavy—like it’s all falling apart or like you made a mistake—take heart. You’re not the only one. With patience, effort, love, prayer, and practical steps, things can and often do get better.
One day, all of this will make sense.
