Many of the cases where husbands today opt for polygyny happen because they had an extramarital affair they thought they could get away with but the lady hooked them one way or the other.
Many go in thinking they can have their wives at home and still play smart using lines like “I wish I met you before my wife” but the lady you are trying to take advantage of also has game which is beyond you.
When you hear how such men paint their wives, you’d understand why many women go into polygyny thinking they are saviours to rescue the man from the bad wife, only to get in and get shocked that the wife is not who she was painted to be.
It takes a lot to be married and the responsibilities are massive. You cannot be splitting bills with a woman only to use the extra saved to try and marry another that you’d also split with. It’s either you are capable or not.
It is the same with emotional presence, intimacy and everything applicable. You cannot be struggling to deliver on one round yet believe you want to satisfy more.
How many do we really witness today who are capable? How many understand marriage to first be a responsibility they’d someday give account of to their Creator?
You had an affair and got caught, it’s already bad enough but no, you want to bully your way out by claiming you want to marry another, doing everything to paint the wife bad just to seem like you are without fault.
It is you who’d be held accountable in the end and unlike humans, you cannot ‘bullcrap’ your Creator, He is the all knowing One.
This is not every case but it’s a very common one that we need to speak against and begin to change in our society.
