You want a man. A man approaches you, and you like what you see. But instead of welcoming the opportunity, you decide to play hard to get. What is wrong with this picture?
For years, society has taught women that being too eager makes them look desperate. The idea of playing hard to get has been romanticized—making a man “work for it” is often seen as a way to gauge his interest. But in reality, this strategy can backfire.
Many good men are straightforward. If they approach you, it’s because they’re interested. If you reciprocate their attraction but choose to act distant, you risk sending mixed signals. Some men may take this as rejection and move on, while others may become frustrated with the unnecessary chase.
There’s nothing wrong with maintaining standards and ensuring that someone is genuinely interested in you for the right reasons. However, deliberately making it difficult for a man who has already caught your eye can be counterproductive. Why create obstacles where none are needed?
Authenticity is key in relationships. If you like someone, show it. Communication and mutual interest build stronger connections than outdated games. The modern dating world is already complex—why add unnecessary challenges?
Instead of playing hard to get, try being open and receptive. You might just find that genuine connections flourish when both people feel valued and appreciated from the start.
