Many get into extramarital affairs because they didn’t have clarity over it.
To them, it becomes an affair when it gets sxxual so everything they do that’s not penetrative sxx doesn’t count.
Where does it go wrong?
It becomes wrong the moment your actions become things you feel the need to hide from your spouse.
This can be the chat messages that get you so excited it brightens your day. People may notice and ask why you seem happy or smiling more at your phone, to which you’d reply “nothing” or even lie about it.
Why lie? Your mind would not want to answer. You’d say it’s because you don’t want any issues but then if all is well, why should an innocent chat with someone bring issues?
It will go from chats to calls and then to physical visits. Despite the fact that it may not have gotten sxxual at this point, you’d feel an excitement directly connected to the person.
At this point, whether or not you’d be able to stop it from going all the way to intimacy begins to seem like a battle you’d happily lose.
When does it become an affair
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Your mind would try to get bold and defend what you are doing, creating excuses and justifications just so that you can feel good doing what you are doing.
You’d feel nobody understands but in truth, there’s nothing really complex about it. You are having an affair.
