You’d be shocked how much abuse, manipulation and poor treatments happen in marriages where religion appears evident in the profiles.
People will twist and weaponize scriptures just so that they can hide the most abusive behaviors.
It is there, lack of emotional intelligence, empathy, genuine care, loyalty. They would, in the name of religion attempt to shut you up and take away your access to loved ones and resources that can help you.
How a person dresses and the religious toning of their statements are key but look deeper to things like respect, empathy etc.
Unfortunately, after a while, the victims of such arrangements begin to see themselves as the problems, they begin to believe abuse is a norm and basic things like love, care and respect are fairy tales.
There are several reading this at this very moment, maybe even you.
I tell you this:
Your Creator is not wicked and there’s no way wicked treatment is what marriage should be about. At some point, hopefully, you will be able to seek better for yourself. It won’t be easy but it is doable but it begins with you.
You’d imagine that the circles these victims belong to will be able to tell them the truth and help them know they can be better but you’d find them helping to normalize the narrative partly because they also don’t have or know better.
Marriage is not meant to be sad and painful and abusive, it is not meant to cut you off people and loved ones. Think, think, think.
