It’s common to see young couples relocate and their marriage struggles.
This happens for different reasons but one common narrative you hear is that the wife got abroad and became unruly.
Yes, there are cases like this but a lot of times, what you don’t get told is that the wife only realised she could have a voice against poor treatment, emotional abuse and infidelity.
If we are being truthful, marriage as practised by many of us at home is not very fair to wives.
Many husbands want wives who will go to work and split the finances while at the same time covering house chores and raising the children……and many women do this.
But it gets to a breaking point where having done all the above, you still get a husband who is not loyal to you and uses the extra he is able to save from you contributing on extramarital affairs.
Yet, it is expected that you accept the above and keep quiet about it to the world.
The wife you are already treating that way is then neglected, insulted verbally and expected to keep giving her best.
When she decides she’s had enough and stands up to the abuse, it becomes a case of her getting abroad and becoming unruly.
And this is easy to believe after all, she never spoke up about her previous maltreatment in the marriage, covering up all the abuse.
As a husband, proper orientation or reorientation is critical in marriage especially when you are relocating. The idea many were raised with is that of a tyrant husband and an abusive marriage.
