One day you realise he has just stopped caring. There’s no more desire to talk and on rare occasions when that happens, it’s about basic things like the children’s welfare. He’s no longer excited around you but you know he’s excited around others which frustrates you.
The marriage which one held so much beautiful promise, now reduced to you two living like estranged tenants living in the same house.
You have been trying but your approach hasn’t brought results. You are tired too.
Intimacy is effectively dead, when it happens, it feels like a painful debt being paid to avoid complains. What sort of intimacy comes with zero emotional connection? Boring, dry, short, literally.
But how did you get here? Why are you here?
Different reasons could include that he’s just evolved and his needs have changed. It could be that he’s found someone else, it could be he’s tired of you and things he used to complain about, it could even be more complex.
What then?
You need to figure out why the marriage has become this way. Of course you’ve tried and you still don’t know. Get professional help.
You cannot solve a problem you don’t understand.
Some reasons hold hope but if unfortunately, what he feels for you is just completely dead and he has lost the desire to fix it, you may have waited too long.
For now, get help. You have a marriage to repair.
It doesn’t matter how long this has gone on for, if you still wish for it to be better and still desire the marriage, get help. Even if you have gotten to a point you are contemplating divorce, you still need guidance on the decision you are about to make.
