“He neglected me”, “He didn’t care about me”, “I was s5xually frustrated”.
These are some of the reasons women hold on to in convincing themselves that what they do is somehow different from what men are predominantly accused of.
It doesn’t matter what your reason is, an extramarital affair is an extramarital affair.
The difference is that while a person who agrees to what it is has already taken the first step towards getting better, a person who embrace self deception will continue to be in denial over what it is. How can you then change or make it better when you will not even agree that you do it and it’s on you?
There is no competition but the number of women engaged in it is at an all time high, especially with married wives. In the end, we are back to square one, forgetting about gender and addressing the issue for what it is.
Marriage comes with challenges, some will make it easy to fall and desire someone else but in the end, even where one has had enough, it’s better to leave the marriage than leave a body count.
“I’m already doing it, what can I do?”
First is to be open to yourself enough to admit what you are doing. This will make it easy to decide on whether you want to stop or not.
The reason many have struggled to stop it is because they have not asked themselves honestly if they truly want to stop it. You have to desire to stop to be able to stop.
You also need a support system around you. This may be difficult especially given the sensitivity of the issue. Seek professional help where things are confidential and begin from there.
