Many people fall into extramarital affairs not because they planned to, but because they lacked clarity on what actually counts as one. To some, it only becomes an affair when it gets physical or sxxual. But here’s the truth: infidelity often begins long before that.
Where Does It Go Wrong?
The line is crossed the moment your actions become things you feel the need to hide from your spouse.
It may start with “innocent” chat messages that make your day brighter. You smile more at your phone, and when someone asks why, you dismiss it with “nothing” or even lie.
But ask yourself—why lie if it’s truly innocent?
From Messages to Emotional Attachment
Chats can quickly turn into calls, and then into physical visits. Even if intimacy hasn’t yet happened, the excitement and emotional connection you feel with this person are already shifting your loyalty away from your spouse.
At this stage, you might tell yourself you can stop it anytime. But deep down, you know it’s becoming a battle you’d rather lose.
The Justifications and Denial
Your mind begins to create excuses and justifications to make your actions feel acceptable. You tell yourself no one would understand, but the reality is simple—you are emotionally cheating. And if it continues, it’s only a matter of time before it becomes physical.
The Bottom Line
An affair doesn’t begin with sxx. It begins the moment you hide your emotional or physical interactions from your partner. Whether it’s through chats, calls, or secret meet-ups, the dishonesty is where infidelity starts.
If you find yourself here, pause and reflect. The earlier you acknowledge it, the better your chances of protecting your marriage before it reaches the point of no return.
