There’s the fear today especially of young men abroad that taking their wives with them abroad will make them turn bad.
Let me state this: If you have a wife who is only good because she is in your country of origin then you should be afraid anyway because being away from her is eventually going to bring out the bad side you dread.
Yes, I know that there are cases where women get lost in the euphoria of the ‘freedom’ that comes with countries especially in the west even to the point of involving law enforcement but this goes deeper.
A lot of the practices we have normalized are actually poor and borderline abusive so at the smallest taste or view of better possibilities, people flip.
I have been based within my country of birth and abroad and it’s been the same or similar. Now, before you put it all down to luck, there’s also the system of marriage being operated.
If the respect you had back home was organic and on merit, it will not matter where you go in the world, you’d still have it.
Where many miss it is exporting tyranny and maltreatment disguised and misunderstood as culture.
Culture is important but I ask you, from the religious or even tribal side, are you treating your wife the way you should?
If you are and you married a good woman, you have nothing to fear. Stop keeping your wife away.
In any case, if you take her and she turns on you, you’d also learn that you didn’t have a good wife all along. This, on the assumption you have been a good husband too.
Unfortunately, we assume every lady back home is automatically good and don’t do due diligence before we jump in and rush to be married. Know, brother, that there are many who’d pretend just to relocate then show true nastiness.
Pay attention to courtship, pray, seek counseling, do research, don’t rush. Hopefully, you’ll get it right.
If you are already married, bro, let your wife come and join you. Distance tends to hurt marriages.
