“Give Me Peace, Woman”: The Misunderstood Definition of Peace in Marriage
In many homes, the phrase “Give me peace, woman” has become a shield husbands hide behind. But what does “peace” really mean in such contexts? Sadly, for some men, peace has been wrongly defined—not as harmony, respect, or mutual love—but as submission at all costs, regardless of fairness.
Here’s what “peace” often translates to in such marriages:
The Misdefined “Peace”
- Don’t touch my phone – Privacy is one thing, secrecy is another. Many use this as an excuse to hide questionable behavior.
- If I do anything wrong, don’t talk about it – Silence is demanded, even when accountability is necessary.
- Always be happy and available – Emotional and physical needs must be met on demand, without considering the wife’s state of mind.
- Neglect must be tolerated – Even when affection and attention are given to others, the wife is told to endure.
- My spending cannot be questioned – Even if money is available but misused, she must accept “there’s no money.”
- If I offend you, you must apologize – Because “I’m the husband after all.”
- My apologies are sacred offerings – On the rare occasion a husband apologizes, the wife is expected to jump with joy and instantly erase the hurt.
- My family is untouchable – No matter what they do, she must accept it in silence.
- Shut up – Her voice, opinions, and feelings are dismissed.
- Don’t talk about anything at all – The expectation is submission without expression.
Why This Is Dangerous
When peace is defined this way, it isn’t peace at all. It’s control, wrapped in entitlement. Real peace in marriage cannot exist without:
- Mutual respect
- Openness and accountability
- Emotional support for both partners
- Shared responsibility
The True Meaning of Peace
Peace in a marriage should mean:
- A safe space where both partners can share openly.
- Respect for each other’s feelings, boundaries, and individuality.
- A balance of accountability—where both admit faults and make amends.
- Love that builds, not one that silences.
If you’ve ever heard or said “Give me peace, woman”, pause and reflect. Is what you’re asking for truly peace—or just permission to do wrong without consequence?
Because real peace in a marriage is not about one partner’s comfort; it’s about building a home where both hearts can rest without fear.
