You may find someone you desire who desires you back — and if you’re lucky, you’ll create something beautiful together: a home filled with love and laughter.
But that’s just the beginning.
Love, no matter how strong it feels at the start, doesn’t sustain itself. It needs intentional effort — deliberate nurturing, growth, and adjustment — or it begins to fade quietly, replaced by routine, ego, or distance.
The truth is, the person you fell in love with years ago no longer exists in the same form. You’ve both changed.
Physically, emotionally, spiritually — change is constant. The question is: Are you evolving together or apart?
Your spouse today may think differently, look differently, and feel differently. That’s not betrayal — it’s growth.
Your responsibility is to keep learning who they are becoming, just as they must learn who you are becoming too. You each own half the work in keeping your hearts in sync.
Many couples make the mistake of believing love will simply keep itself alive — that passion, understanding, and connection will survive on autopilot. But neglect always erodes love.
If you stop paying attention to the small changes in your partner, the drift begins — subtle at first, then steady, then heartbreaking.
If you’re fortunate, your spouse will notice and try to reconnect. But if you meet that effort with defensiveness, manipulation, or self-pity, the damage may become too deep to repair.
Marriage is not about finding the perfect person; it’s about choosing to grow deliberately with the imperfect person you love.
